Stand By Your Womanizer
New York Gov. Eliot Spitzer has joined the rogue's gallery of adulterous politicians who appear before the press to confess their “failures” while using their wives as supportive props.
Spitzer's press conference Monday followed media reports that Spitzer, who as attorney general of
Spitzer began his press conference statement by saying that he wanted to “address a private matter.” He included an apology to the public, but didn't say what the matter involved and didn't admit to any illegal conduct:
"I have acted in a way that violates my obligation to my family and violates my or any sense of right or wrong,” said Mr. Spitzer, who appeared with his wife Silda at his
Spitzer's wife of 20 years, Silda, was at his side and was visibly upset.
Hopefully, the Spitzer family will experience forgiveness and reconciliation. That takes time and work. But exploitation of the family by the one who broke the trust is hardly the right catalyst.
So why does a man who says he needs to “regain the trust of [his] family, further abuse whatever trust remains by using his traumatized wife as a prop at his press conference or as his defender-in-chief?
Recall the following with wife at his side:
Former Democratic President Bill Clinton did have “sex with that woman.”
Rep. Bob Livingston (R-La.) resigned after admitting extramarital affairs.
Sen. David Vitter (R-La.) whose phone number appeared on the client list of the “D.C. Madam.”
James McGreevey, former Democratic governor of
What is it, a decency deficit or a sensitivity shortfall?
Even if the wife wants to be there, you'd think they'd have the guts to stand alone and take the heat. It would feel less egregious if he hired another “escort” for the occasion.
But the wife is there because the wimp's personal ambitions and desire for public rehabilitation apparently outweigh his desire for marital reconciliation. He doesn't get it—the public ride is over, or should be. He isn't going to be president.
Public officials who hire a hooker haven't merely committed a “private” failure. These are people who swear an oath to uphold the law but have violated the public trust. Consorting with criminals opens the door to extortion and bribery.
And to any wife who appears as a prop beside her meandering man because she values status, power, and a lucrative lifestyle more than her self-respect, you might want to reflect on the message you're sending your children. If he's guilty, let him stand alone for awhile until he gets it. They call it tough love. After all, he didn't want you by his side on the night in question, someone else was.
Maybe fallen politicians would cease exploiting family members at these mea culpa press conferences if some reporter stood up and asked, “I'd like to know how you're going to regain your wife's trust when you've subjected her to public humiliation by bringing her here today.”
Jan LaRue, Esq. is a member of the Culture and Media Institute's Board of Advisors.